We’ve all met people who seemed cold and forbidding. And we’ve all met people who treat us like old friends from day one. This isn’t an issue with just high-profile people. How approachable are the most important people in your life? When you need to ask your boss a question, is it easy or difficult? When you need to talk to your spouse about a difficult subject, do you expect a dialogue or a fight?
For that matter, what about you? Can the people closest to you talk to you about nearly anything? When was the last time someone brought you bad news? Or strongly disagreed with your point of view on an issue? Or confronted you concerning something you did wrong? If it has been a while, you may not be a very approachable person.
Some people treat the idea of becoming approachable as frivolous; it’s a nice thing if one can be bothered to cultivate it. But truly it’s much more than that. It is a powerful asset to have in one’s relational toolbox.
John Maxwell — Winning with People
DO A 360-DEGREE SURVEY OF YOUR APPROACHABILITY.
FIND OUT IF YOUR BOSSES, EMPLOYEES, COLLEAGUES,
AND FAMILY MEMBERS FIND YOU EASY TO TALK TO.